We also discovered quite accidentally, that on Monday nights our local Dollar Theatre shows movies for 50¢ a piece, for groups of three or more. Noah just won a $15 gift certificate to this movie theatre and, at the 50¢ a piece night, translates to 10 movies a piece! Which in turn equals five nights of Mother/Sons double features, just enough to go every other Monday, which is when they are at our house, for the rest of the summer!
The last time we went we saw The Bucket List and The Spiderwick Chronicles. These were both Noah's choices because we were there to celebrate his 11th birthday. I chose the order however, because I figured Bucket List would be a little slow and Spiderwick a little more action filled, and it was going to be a long night with two movies.
I chose correctly.
We had fun, though they weren't my favorite movies I have ever seen. The Bucket List didn't get me all sappy and teary eyed as I thought it might. However it did inspire me to do some thinking about a sort of "Bucket List" of my own.
I have been tossing that idea around for a while, ever since seeing Elizabeth Gilbert on Oprah discussing her book, Eat, Pray, Love. She was so inspiring that they had her on twice within a few weeks or so, to follow up with audience members who had been inspired to rethink their priorities after hearing her speak or reading her book. In the first appearance, Gilbert suggested making a list of things we really want to try or experience in our lifetime; the kinds of things that we put off in order to do all the "less selfish" things we think we should do. A "things to do before I die" or, per the movie, a "before I kick the bucket" list.
So after hearing about said list from my Eat, Pray, Love Guru, then from the movie with the boys, then again this morning via my Step Mom support group friends, I decided it was time to make up mine.
So far it's up to 50, not the 100 that Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman had on their list. But I'm only 40 as opposed to their ripe old ages, and I'm sure by then I could easily think of a hundred or more.
Here's Z's Bucket List- Fifty Things I would like to do in my 40's
1. Say no when I need to and yes when I want to
2. Create Space for meditation
3. Make my health a priority
4. Learn to love my body in its current state
5. Call my family and friends more often to tell them I love them
6. Send a real card in the real mail to a different friend once a week
7. Find more women friends my age
8. Go and sit alone for an afternoon in my late grandparents home in the country
9. Form a Step Mom Retreat
10. Finish writing my play, my novel, start my memoir
11. Forgive and let go of past hurts
12. Spend less time recording my life and more time living it
13. Visit my 93 year old grandmother, even though we’ve never been close
14. Visit my disabled brother and heal our relationship
15. Consume less (unhealthy foods, unnecessary goods, and energy resources)
16. Get a dog
17. Go for more walks
18. Go to lunch with my mom once a month
19. Audition for a play again for the first time in years
20. Go to matinées of foreign films alone
21. Read more fiction ( put down the self improvement books)
22. Take a writing class
23. Take a photography class
24. Learn to play my Seagull (acoustic guitar)
25. Take a tap dancing class again
26. Restart Voice lessons
27. Learn to belly dance
28. Take a cooking class
29. Start a garden- LEARN to garden!
30. Find a sitter two Sat nights a month for a date with my husband
31. Take ballroom dancing lessons with my Husband
32. Read a novel to my sons
33. Volunteer for a good cause
34. Volunteer for a good cause with each of my kids
35. Do a play with my kids
36. Start a young girls writing retreat with my SD
37. Do an artistic project with each of my kids
38. Teach my kids to each cook one meal from scratch
39. Take my kids to the drive in movies
40. Take my kids camping
41. Initiate steps to becoming a lay leader
42. Establish a budget for family fiscal health
43. Apply for my Masters in Religion at Meadville
44. Go to the ocean
45. Visit nearby summer festivals
46. Host a dinner party
47. Have a tea party
48. Have a cocktail party
49. Watch less TV
50. Reduce clutter in my life